The Most Common Reasons For Breaking Up

Every relationship is different and there are countless reasons for breaking up, but problems usually start to arise when either party start to neglect the other in some way.

Here is a look at some of the more common reasons for breaking up.

Trust. Top of the tree when it comes to a breaking up. Trust is the very foundation of any relationship, everything is built on it, or stems from it, and once broken can destroy a relationship very quickly. Whether someone has cheated, lied, possibly both, once the seed of distrust is planted, things can soon spiral out of control and end in a breakup.

Boredom. If you have been with someone a while, it's very easy to let your relationship become mundane and "run of the mill". Plenty of couples get caught in this trap and forget spontaneity. It's very important to keep working at a relationship to keep the spark alive.

Selfishness. People can become selfish in a relationship, and can forget the other persons needs, putting their life and problems before anything else. Remembering to listen and take the time help or support your partner is a key part of a healthy relationship.

Compromise. Being in a relationship is all about compromise. This doesn't mean you have to change your life to suit the other person, it just means being aware of the other persons needs. Making lots of tiny compromises can make all the difference in keeping a healthy balance.

Talking. Not just general chit chat, real talk. Countless couples breakup through lack of communication. Sitting down with the other person and really telling them how you feel about an issue or greivance is how you overcome problems and grow as a couple.

Have you been affected by any of these issues and broken up with someone?

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The No Contact Rule - Does It Work?

Much has been written about the no contact rule, so what is it? And does it really work?

Well there is some truth behind the theory, but if taken to extremes it will do you no good at all. It's true that after breaking up with someone you have to give the situation some space.

The last thing your ex needs right now is to be bombarded with phone calls, text messages, emails etc. It's really hard I know, because all you want do is try to change their mind, but hard as it may be, you have to summon every ounce of willpower you have and just sit tight and put the phone down.

During a breakup, or the period leading up to it, emotions and feelings are running high, and things are said and done in the heat of the moment. After all the emotional chaos there needs to be a period of calm, where both of you can collect your thoughts and look at things more objectively.

Take a few days to clear your head and put yourself in a more rational frame of mind, this is much easier said than done, but if you want to get back with someone love, it will help your cause no end.

Don't worry if you've already been in contact with your ex, there are still plenty of things you can do to get things back on track...

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Texting An Ex - Don't Do It!

All you want to do is talk to them right?

See if they answer the phone?

Maybe send them a quick text?


These days it's the easiest thing in the world to stay in touch.
Social media has made the world... sociable.

Facebook, Twitter, MySpace (remember them?), IM, Texting, Email.... the list is endless.
Don't get me wrong, social media is fantastic, and is great for staying connected, at work and at play.

Unfortunately, when it comes to repairing relationships, or getting back with someone you love, it is the worst form of communication. It's hard, but you must resist texting an ex.
A common senario that wont do you any favors is something called "drunk dialling". Alcohol will weaken your resolve, and worse still, loosen your tongue, leading to all kinds of babbled messages and/or phone calls.
Drunk or not, text messages often get taken out of context, especially when it comes to matters of the heart.

If you want to get back with someone you love, any contact is very important, and should be approached with a clear head and clear idea of what to say.

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