The Most Common Reasons For Breaking Up

Every relationship is different and there are countless reasons for breaking up, but problems usually start to arise when either party start to neglect the other in some way.

Here is a look at some of the more common reasons for breaking up.

Trust. Top of the tree when it comes to a breaking up. Trust is the very foundation of any relationship, everything is built on it, or stems from it, and once broken can destroy a relationship very quickly. Whether someone has cheated, lied, possibly both, once the seed of distrust is planted, things can soon spiral out of control and end in a breakup.

Boredom. If you have been with someone a while, it's very easy to let your relationship become mundane and "run of the mill". Plenty of couples get caught in this trap and forget spontaneity. It's very important to keep working at a relationship to keep the spark alive.

Selfishness. People can become selfish in a relationship, and can forget the other persons needs, putting their life and problems before anything else. Remembering to listen and take the time help or support your partner is a key part of a healthy relationship.

Compromise. Being in a relationship is all about compromise. This doesn't mean you have to change your life to suit the other person, it just means being aware of the other persons needs. Making lots of tiny compromises can make all the difference in keeping a healthy balance.

Talking. Not just general chit chat, real talk. Countless couples breakup through lack of communication. Sitting down with the other person and really telling them how you feel about an issue or greivance is how you overcome problems and grow as a couple.

Have you been affected by any of these issues and broken up with someone?

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What To Do When Your Ex Is Seeing Someone Else

Still in love with your ex?

There are no words to describe this crushing experience.
If you still have feelings for them, it can feel like you are being cheated on, even though you are no longer a couple.

Many people who have recently come out of a long term relationship often feel lost without a partner, and try to replace what they have no longer have, aka: the rebound.

It may do nothing to ease the pain, but strange as it sounds, this could work in your favor. Whatever the circumstances of the split from your ex, your ex is going to miss you being around, regardless of what they say or do. More often than not they are looking for company and someone to talk to, a distration, not much more than that.

So how do you react?

Your ex will probably expect some kind of emotional outburst, don't give them one. If you want to get back with some you love, your reaction at this point is important, so be polite, but brief, smile and carry on about your business. No emotional outbursts or dark looks directed at the new person on the scene.

This is the part where you have to sit tight and be patient, and find out how they really feel. If they still have feelings for you they will want to know why you appear to be unfazed that they are seeing someone else, they will want to know how you feel about their new relationship.

Psychologically, this puts you in a very strong position. Expect your ex to get in contact...

Find out what to say and how to react when they do get in touch.
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Breakups and Getting Back Together

Breakups are hard, they can leave you feeling helpless, isolated and with seemingly nowhere to turn.

The truth is, a relationship breakup is one of the hardest things you will ever have to endure. Emotionally and physically draining, when you are in this situation it's sometimes difficult to see the right course to take.

Half the battle is putting yourself in the best emotional place possible to make the right choices for you. There is no point trying to get back with someone you love without first making sure you are in the right place, (mentally and physically) first.

Calling, texting or trying to see them will do you no good at all for the time being, the first (and possibly biggest) hurdle is getting your head straight first.

Getting back together with someone you love is very often about doing the opposite of what your fraught emotions are telling you to do. This may sound strange, but re-discovering the person you once were before you even met your estranged lover will help your cause a great deal.

If everything you have tried so far hasn't worked, it time to do the exact opposite...

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