Breakup Blues - Lessening The Pain

It's one of the worst places to be, it feels like you're carrying around a heavy weight, it's a struggle to just do normal everyday things. You don't want to talk, you don't want to see anyone and you don't know what to do for the best.

Finding a way to just feel normal is hard, but not impossible.

Unfortunately there is no miracle cure for the way you feel right now, but there are ways you can try to lift your spirits.

#1 Don't hide yourself away. As tough as it is, hiding from the world wont help you. You need to be around people, people that you trust and can rely on, people that have your best interests at heart. Don't be alone, you will feel worse.

#2 Avoid alcohol. Hiding in a bottle of your favorite poison would be most folks bet for numbing the pain, but this is the worst thing you can do. Alcohol is a depressant and will do nothing to make you feel any better.

#3 Exercise. The thought of going anywhere near a gym or going for a run will probably not be top of your list, but it's a proven scientific fact that any form of exercise releases feel good chemicals into your system (endorphins).

#4 Don't eat junk. Try to eat decent food, my bet is that you don't have any appetite at all right now, but a good diet at the moment will help you no end.

#5 Make plans. Keep busy and focus on something. Maybe you want that special person back? Set yourself that goal....

These few small tips might not seem like much, but when put together they will turn the way you feel now into something much more positive.

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The Most Common Reasons For Breaking Up

Every relationship is different and there are countless reasons for breaking up, but problems usually start to arise when either party start to neglect the other in some way.

Here is a look at some of the more common reasons for breaking up.

Trust. Top of the tree when it comes to a breaking up. Trust is the very foundation of any relationship, everything is built on it, or stems from it, and once broken can destroy a relationship very quickly. Whether someone has cheated, lied, possibly both, once the seed of distrust is planted, things can soon spiral out of control and end in a breakup.

Boredom. If you have been with someone a while, it's very easy to let your relationship become mundane and "run of the mill". Plenty of couples get caught in this trap and forget spontaneity. It's very important to keep working at a relationship to keep the spark alive.

Selfishness. People can become selfish in a relationship, and can forget the other persons needs, putting their life and problems before anything else. Remembering to listen and take the time help or support your partner is a key part of a healthy relationship.

Compromise. Being in a relationship is all about compromise. This doesn't mean you have to change your life to suit the other person, it just means being aware of the other persons needs. Making lots of tiny compromises can make all the difference in keeping a healthy balance.

Talking. Not just general chit chat, real talk. Countless couples breakup through lack of communication. Sitting down with the other person and really telling them how you feel about an issue or greivance is how you overcome problems and grow as a couple.

Have you been affected by any of these issues and broken up with someone?

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The No Contact Rule - Does It Work?

Much has been written about the no contact rule, so what is it? And does it really work?

Well there is some truth behind the theory, but if taken to extremes it will do you no good at all. It's true that after breaking up with someone you have to give the situation some space.

The last thing your ex needs right now is to be bombarded with phone calls, text messages, emails etc. It's really hard I know, because all you want do is try to change their mind, but hard as it may be, you have to summon every ounce of willpower you have and just sit tight and put the phone down.

During a breakup, or the period leading up to it, emotions and feelings are running high, and things are said and done in the heat of the moment. After all the emotional chaos there needs to be a period of calm, where both of you can collect your thoughts and look at things more objectively.

Take a few days to clear your head and put yourself in a more rational frame of mind, this is much easier said than done, but if you want to get back with someone love, it will help your cause no end.

Don't worry if you've already been in contact with your ex, there are still plenty of things you can do to get things back on track...

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What To Do When Your Ex Is Seeing Someone Else

Still in love with your ex?

There are no words to describe this crushing experience.
If you still have feelings for them, it can feel like you are being cheated on, even though you are no longer a couple.

Many people who have recently come out of a long term relationship often feel lost without a partner, and try to replace what they have no longer have, aka: the rebound.

It may do nothing to ease the pain, but strange as it sounds, this could work in your favor. Whatever the circumstances of the split from your ex, your ex is going to miss you being around, regardless of what they say or do. More often than not they are looking for company and someone to talk to, a distration, not much more than that.

So how do you react?

Your ex will probably expect some kind of emotional outburst, don't give them one. If you want to get back with some you love, your reaction at this point is important, so be polite, but brief, smile and carry on about your business. No emotional outbursts or dark looks directed at the new person on the scene.

This is the part where you have to sit tight and be patient, and find out how they really feel. If they still have feelings for you they will want to know why you appear to be unfazed that they are seeing someone else, they will want to know how you feel about their new relationship.

Psychologically, this puts you in a very strong position. Expect your ex to get in contact...

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Texting An Ex - Don't Do It!

All you want to do is talk to them right?

See if they answer the phone?

Maybe send them a quick text?


These days it's the easiest thing in the world to stay in touch.
Social media has made the world... sociable.

Facebook, Twitter, MySpace (remember them?), IM, Texting, Email.... the list is endless.
Don't get me wrong, social media is fantastic, and is great for staying connected, at work and at play.

Unfortunately, when it comes to repairing relationships, or getting back with someone you love, it is the worst form of communication. It's hard, but you must resist texting an ex.
A common senario that wont do you any favors is something called "drunk dialling". Alcohol will weaken your resolve, and worse still, loosen your tongue, leading to all kinds of babbled messages and/or phone calls.
Drunk or not, text messages often get taken out of context, especially when it comes to matters of the heart.

If you want to get back with someone you love, any contact is very important, and should be approached with a clear head and clear idea of what to say.

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